Finding Peace Through Grief: A Journey of Healing

Finding Peace Through Grief

Grief can feel like it takes over your whole body, and it can make the world feel unfamiliar. If you are in that place right now, you are not broken and you are not alone. Finding peace through grief does not mean forgetting, and it means learning how to carry love in a new way.

In this post, you will find:

• Gentle validation for what grief can feel like in your body and mind

• Supportive reminders for when you feel like you cannot breathe

• Practical ways to preserve memories and stay connected in love

Understanding the Depth of Grief

Sometimes, we are unable to breathe because our grief is so overwhelming. We may wish to sleep and never wake up to face the nightmare our life has become. We long to understand why this has happened.

Our bodies may feel like they can produce no more tears, and the hollowness in our chests consumes us. It can feel like our minds are in a fog, unable to process anything. We may not recognize ourselves anymore, and we may not care.

Our bodies shake, we feel numb, and sadness envelops us. We might feel raw and bleeding from the heart, unsure how to move forward without our beloved.

When grief shows up in the body

Grief is not only emotional. It can be physical, and it can affect sleep, appetite, breathing, and your nervous system. If you are experiencing chest tightness, nausea, shaking, exhaustion, or brain fog, it does not mean you are doing grief wrong. It means your body is trying to survive something that hurts.

Time does not heal the loss. The heart never forgets that the most beautiful person in the world has been taken from us. It does not matter if it has been one day, one year, or one hundred years. Your grief becomes a part of you.

Seeking Support in Grief

When these emotions wash over you and take you into the depths of despair, it can help to reach out to a power greater than yourself, whatever that means to you. It can also help to allow those who love and care for you to grieve alongside you.

People often say things they think will comfort you. They mean well, but they may not understand your pain. You are raw, wounded, and empty. Do not let their well-meaning words hurt you further.

You are allowed to feel any emotion you want. You may unintentionally hurt others with your words and actions during this time, and that can happen in grief. You are not a bad person for struggling.

Without your beloved, you are no longer who you used to be, and you will never be that person again. You are becoming someone new, and it is okay if you do not recognize yourself yet.

The Unbreakable Bond of Love

Love is what keeps you connected to your beloved. Your soul’s love for them keeps you alive. It is also what allows them to reach out to you in dreams, messages, and even in the gentle breeze when you miss them.

A part of you may have died the moment they did. That part now resides with your beloved.

Memory-keeping that helps later

If you can, take photographs of their room, clothes, and the counter where they last left things. Capture how they arranged their belongings, the inside of their drawers, and the personal touches in their space.

At their service, leave out several notebooks and ask people to write down their favorite memories. After the shock has passed, you will have stories and photographs for a life scrapbook.

These photos and memories can make going through their belongings more bearable. The funny and heartfelt stories can warm your heart on the hardest days.

Embracing Their Spirit

Your beloved no longer has a physical body. They are now pure spirit, a timeless soul filled with love. This love forms an unbreakable bond that intertwines you with them until you are reunited.

When the shock lessens, invite them to come to you in dreams, songs, photographs, emotions, or in spirit. Let them know you are in pain and need their essence.

Remember, you are not separate from them. They can hear you and feel your heart’s wishes.

Ways to invite connection without pressure

You cannot change the past, and you do not have to solve every why and how in order to heal. You can still talk about your beloved, call them by name, and celebrate their birthdays and other important anniversaries.

Speak to them out loud or in your thoughts. Above all, allow them back into your life in spirit form. This connection can help soften the ache in your heart.

You must be vulnerable. You are here to honor their life. You are an ambassador for everything they were.

Your job is to live and love for them, knowing they are still wrapped around you and living through you.

Reflecting on Your Journey

Imagine trading places with your beloved for a moment. Visualize that you have passed on, and they are still here. How would you feel if they were going through your suffering? What would you want them to know?

Listen to your answer. It holds more wisdom than you realize.

You will have good days and bad days. There is no right way to grieve, and there is no magical formula to alleviate your suffering. There is no specific timeline, no prayer, and no words that will make everything better.

The love that your beloved is and was, combined with your unconditional love, is the only salve for your heart.

Breathe and live with them and for them. Know that you are worthy of their spirit’s kiss and touch. You are not alone and never will be. Their hand is within yours. They are safe in your love, and you are safe in theirs.

There is no death, no beginning or end. There is only the constant of love, and the essence of who you are and will be in life and beyond.

Finding Comfort in Love

May the grace of your love for your beloved sustain you today and forever. May the essence of their love for you comfort and relieve you from the grip of loss.

Your mutual love sustains you both, as you are opposite sides of the same coin. Let love be the only thing that is real. Everything else is an illusion.

A gentle next step

If you would like support and a grounded space to feel close to your loved one, you can book a reading with Moriah here.

Grief support is not a substitute for medical or mental health care. If you feel unsafe or in crisis, please seek immediate local support.