When Our Beloved Dies

Sometimes we are unable to breathe because our grief is so overwhelming.We may want to go to sleep and not wake up to face the nightmare our life has become. We want to know why and we want to know how this could have ever happened. Our body cannot produce any more tears and the hollowness in our chest is a consuming well. It may feel like our brains cannot process or know anything, we do not know who we are anymore and do not care. Our body will shake, we will be numb and we cannot process anything other than sadness or loss. We may feel that we are raw, bleeding from the heart and have no idea how to move forward without the person that we love so dearly.

Time does not heal loss. The heart never forgets that the most beautiful person in the world to you has been taken from life. It does not matter if it has been one day, one year or one hundred years your grief is now a part of you. 

When these emotions wash over you and take you into the hopelessness and despair of death you have to ask a power greater than yourself to lift you up. You have to allow those who love and care for you to grieve with you. 

People will say things they think will comfort you. They mean well and have absolutely no idea how you feel and how you are suffering.You are raw, you are wounded and you are empty. Don’t let well meaning words hurt you further. You are allowed to feel any emotion you want. You may hurt people with your words and your actions in the process of grief and this too is okay, nobody will hold it against you. Without the person you love so dearly you are no longer who you used to be and quite frankly you will never be that person again. 

Love is what keeps you bound together with your beloved. Your souls love for your most precious keeps you alive and it is also the same thing that allows them to come to you in dreams, messages and on the wing of a breeze when you miss them. Part of you died the moment they did. That part of you now resides with your beloved. 

Take a photograph of their room, their clothes, the counter where they last left things. Take pictures of how they had things laid out on their dresser, left their personal space and the inside of their drawers. At their service leave out several notebooks and ask people to write down their favorite memories of your beloved. After the shock has passed you will have stories and photographs for a life scrapbook. The photos will make going through their room and belongings much more bearable and the funny and witty stories will warm your heart on an unbearable day. 

Your beloved no longer has a body they now are pure spirit,a timeless soul. Their soul is pure love. That love is an unbreakable bond that intertwines you with your beloved until you are reunited again. When the shock has lessened, ask them to come to you in a dream, a song, photographs, an emotion, a knowing or in spirit. Let your beloved know that you are in pain and need the touch of their essence. Remember that you are not separate from them,and they can indeed hear you and feel your hearts wish for them.

You can not change the past. You have to stop asking why and how. You can still tell people in your life about your beloved, call them by name. Celebrate their birthdays and other important anniversaries. Talk to them out loud or in your head. Above all allow them back into your life in spirit form so that may help heal your broken heart and shattered life. You have no choice but to be vulnerable. You are here on earth to honor their life. You are an ambassador for everything that they ever were. Your job is to live and love for them knowing that they are still wrapped around you and living through you.Trade places with your beloved for a moment. Visualize that you have died and they are still here. Ask yourself how you would feel if they were going through your suffering, what would you want them to know? Listen to your answer as it contains more wisdom than you know. 

You will have good days and bad days. There is no proper way to grieve. There is no magical formula to alleviate your suffering. There is no specific length of time, no prayer, no words that will make you feel better.The love that your beloved is and was, that is combined with your unconditional love is the only salve to your heart. 

Breathe and live with them and for them. Know that you are worthy of their spirit’s kiss and touch. You are not alone and never will be.Their hand is within yours. They are safe in your love and you are safe in theirs. There is no death, there is no beginning or end, and there just is the constant of love. The essence of who you are and will be in life and beyond.  May the grace of your love for your beloved sustain you today and forever.  May the essence of their love for you comfort and relieve you from the grip of loss. May your mutual love sustain you both as you are opposite sides of the same coin. Let love be the only thing that is real, everything else is illusion. 

19 comments on “When Our Beloved Dies

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Beth on October 5, 2014 5:38 pm

thank you angel.

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Moriah on October 5, 2014 6:35 pm

Hugs!

 

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Cindy Rooney on October 5, 2014 6:15 pm

Oh Moriah, you have NO idea how much I needed these words right now. THANK YOU, from the depths of my heart, my family and my beautiful Tara..There really ARE no words that can thank you enough…….Much love to you and your family….you are SO BEAUTIFUL and radiate love, kindness, and healing. A true Angel on this earth to save so many of us who are lost……………

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Moriah on October 5, 2014 6:34 pm

You’re so welcome Cindy. Much love.

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Linette on October 5, 2014 6:33 pm

With tears streaming down my face . I just read words I feel. I am scared I am so grief stricken and can’t seem to find the footsteps to keep going . It isn’t fair but it happened. I can’t turn back time. But sometimes I can’t keep chasing time.

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Moriah on October 5, 2014 6:34 pm

I’m so sorry Linette, I wish you peace of mind. Much love.

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Bonnie Hanna on October 5, 2014 7:30 pm

the most words to console me…..just when I am feeling inconsolable ……once again….you are wonderful xoxox

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Moriah on October 6, 2014 7:32 am

Thanks Bonnie much love.

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Bonnie Hanna on October 5, 2014 7:31 pm

wonderful was supposed to be in there …wonderful words…xoxxo

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Mary Meyers on October 5, 2014 7:41 pm

It will be 15 years on October 9th and sometimes feels like yesterday and sometimes like has been forever. Reading this has truly helped me. I’ve always thought he was here watching over us and I know that the love we shared will continue! Thank you. You are truly amazing!!

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Moriah on October 6, 2014 7:32 am

Much love to you.

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Catherine Sand on October 18, 2014 10:39 am

A dear friend just lost her only child. He was only 26 yrs young. He was a recovering addict and fell in a construction accident. Please pray for her, I am going to forward her your words. Thank-you Moriah.

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Moriah on October 19, 2014 10:55 am

I’m so very sorry. I will keep them in my prayers.

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wendy bergfeld on December 30, 2014 1:17 pm

I need to talk to you. My niece works at mystique and u had a show there. You had a being that wants to get in touch w his mother. I think I am the mother. I lost my son when he was 12 and can’t get past losing him. Amanda Naderman has been trying to get me in to see you. I don’t care what it costs I need to hear what he has to say. Please contact me as soon as you can.

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Barbara on January 6, 2015 6:02 pm

It has been 6 years and I still to this moment think about my deceased husband of 20 years every day. He was tragically killed on a Harley(his 9th) and he was my everything. We had no children. I recently remarried but still cannot forget my Ricky.

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Lisa Cook on February 18, 2015 10:37 am

I lost my daughter on January 2,2015 . I don’t know what happened. I would like to make a appointment with you .I need to know she is ok. She left behind a 4 year old daughter who she loved more than life its self. I hope you would be able to help me because everyday I feel like I cant keep living .My daughter was my world. I just need to know what happened. , Thank You, Lisa Cook

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Kerri on March 19, 2015 11:14 pm

Hi Moriah, I have often wanted to connect with my daughter who passed away as a baby (5.5 months old). Can you do readings to connect with energies who have passed that were not able to communicate while on this earth? I would love to be able to connect with her but I don’t know if this is possible since she was so young when she passed. Thanks, Kerri

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Jodi Beidler on October 15, 2015 8:00 am

Moriah, these words are so very true and right on. You have helped me so much over the years but particularly since the loss of my husband . You are a blessing to everyone and a dear friend to me.

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Peony on December 1, 2015 9:59 am

Saw you last night on TLC and some of what you were saying to that family really hit home for me. I lost my mom, brother-in-law, and oldest brother within 5 months of each other this year and it has been rough for me since I was the caretaker for all three of them at various times of the day, week, or month. Also lost the love of my life (murdered in 1995) and my father (1973). I was so happy to hear you say that the deceased can hear everything that we say, and for us to talk to them like they were still here. Then looking you up this morning and finding this page on grief, it is really what I needed to read. Of course I cried the entire time I was reading it, but it really helped me. I do plan on purchasing your book and another one you mentioned from another author because I do have spirits that visit me from time to time and think this will help me as well with handling that. Thank you so much for all that you do to help others here on Earth. Have a wonderful life and God Bless you…

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